Archive for November, 2010

Her Husband’s Heart

Proverbs 31:11 The heart of her (the Excellent wife) husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.

Trust~ Difficult word for some of us, huh? What does it mean to you to have someone’s trust? And not just anyone’s trust but the trust of your husband? The person on this earth who knows you better than anyone else… does he trust you? When was the last time you considered this question?

For me, trust is a BIG deal with anyone, but with my man, HUGE! I desire for his heart to be secure in me. The second part of the verse is there for a reason; “he will have no lack of gain”. What does that mean to you and I in this modern world we live in? I know this will not make some of us happy but these are just my thoughts on this… some of us like shopping a bit too much. We don’t consider the issues we face as a family when we have debt hanging over our heads. Sometimes we may choose to push the blame of the debt to our husbands, “he needs a better job”, or “well, he buys things too”, but honestly we are only responsible for our part in it. Can my husband say that he has no lack of gain with me in his life? I truly want this. Why? Obviously because I love my husband but it should be first and foremost because I love my Lord.

Verse 12 goes right along with verse 11… “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” What does it mean to “Do good to our husbands”? Well, for one thing it means we are pro-active in our marriage. We seek to do good to him…what does he like? The greatest thing you can do for him is to pray for him! Tell him you pray for him, tell him what you are praying, ask him what you can pray for… what are some other things?  A clean house? Do it. A clean car? Do it. A favorite meal? Do it. Obedient and respectful children? Train them to be this! It is part of Philippians 2:3,4 “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not to his own interests but also to the interests of others.” This starts with our husbands and then moves to our children. When we start to put his needs above our own, at first it will feel like a shoe that doesn’t fit. We will feel out of place and maybe expect some kind of acknowledgement from him on what WE are doing… this is when we must pray for the humility that is takes to be obedient to the Word, knowing that God will bless us for our obedience.

“…and not harm…” How do we do harm to our husbands? For one, we are not obedient to the first…”doing good”, we don’t pray for him, we complain about him. We don’t do what we know he likes because “he doesn’t do what we like”. All of this is harmful to our husbands, both spiritually and physically.

“…all the days of her life.” This isn’t to be just some technique we use to get what we want from God or our husbands, this is to be a life pattern. Even though it may feel odd when we start stepping out in faith and being obedient, it won’t take long (if our hearts are right) before we realize we are doing it because we want to and in the doing we find joy.

Thanks for taking the time to dig in with me.


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An Excellent Wife

 When is the last time you searched and searched for something that you found to be precious? Maybe it was something that you longed for your whole life. Maybe it was something that you lost? Maybe it was something that you thought you needed. In Proverbs 31:10a We see these words; “An excellent wife who can find?”… the meaning of “excellent” is ”superior” or “first-class”. What does this mean to us as women of God? What can make us an “excellent wife”?

The next few blogs I feel led to break up this passage in Proverbs 31:10-31 and hopefully discuss with each other what makes us different as wives and mothers when we claim the power of the Holy Spirit working in us through loving our family’s and those around us. I hope that many of you who read my blog will feel the freedom to share what the Lord show’s you through this and that we can all learn a great deal of what it means to be an “excellent wife”.

 In the last part of this verse it says “She is far more precious than jewels.” What jewels do you find to be precious? Is it your diamond in your wedding band? Or maybe an heirloom ring you inherited? Whatever the case, God say’s that “an excellent wife” is more precious than these. I want to be that! I want to know what He wants from me as a wife and mother and to not despise the truth given but rather act on it in faith and trust that He will make me into the image of His Son! I am excited to dig in and find out the secrets of this woman in Proverbs 31! I don’t believe as many women have remarked that “this is an unattainable goal”! There is NOTHING in this passage that leads us to believe such a thing. Let us press on to be the women He has called us to be!

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It’s been a couple of weeks since I have written. A couple of months ago someone who I thought knew me pretty well took something I wrote and twisted it really farther than I even thought possible. If you are a communicator at all you know the pain of this. My pastor is famous for his “disclaimers” before he makes a hard point. I have always chuckled at this, but when you go through something where someone twists your words, you feel like you HAVE to make “disclaimers”.

  Well, here I am. Kind of a little nervous but at the same time knowing that God has given me a word for my situation and as usual feeling the burn of needing to share His word and the power of it.

For a couple of weeks our family has been battling discouragement. Each of us in our own way over different things. My husband, myself, my oldest son, and even the younger two children have been somewhat dismayed over current events in our lives. This past Monday was one of the worst for me. I spent most of the day crying off and on, and feeling not even worthy to call out to God for help. On Tuesday I received a surprise letter in the mail from a lady who I truly have little contact with due to her schedule and mine. Her and I go to the same church but other than a quick hug now and then, we truly do not communicate. The letter held a note from her and then a story of a woman whose faith was tried in a very similar way as mine and the honesty of her feelings were heart wrenching. I sat on the floor in my bathroom crying over the love that God has for me. You see, I believe He has given me a Word from His Word to stand on and believe but I tend to doubt so easily. I want to trust, but then I hear the accuser come in, with words such as, “Why would God do anything for the likes of you?”, “You don’t even know what you are asking.”, “You have no right to ask anything of God.” And the list can go on and on. I cave in so easily too!

Well, Tuesday God confirmed His word to me, yes, me who doubted, me who cried, me who questioned. ME. Tuesday night Tony said that he wanted each of us to spend some time in prayer separately. As I was in my chair in the living room thanking God for His confirmation I felt drawn to open my bible to Psalm 106 and 107. My bible came to life! The Lord spoke so clearly to me through 106:8 “Yet he saved them for his name’s sake that he might make known his mighty power.”

I felt the Holy Spirit speak so tenderly, “Deanna, I am true to my word and my promises for my sake, there is nothing you can do or have done to make me be unfaithful to my word.”  Maybe you are not like this but I condemn myself constantly. But, when I see it as God is ALL about His glory, not mine, not any humans, I can rest in the fact that He loves me. He loves me. The one who has doubted, the one who has sinned grotesquely, the one who feels unworthy. He loves me. He loves me enough to speak His word, and then when I need confirmation, He in His almighty grace, gives it to me. This is my victory! No matter, what He loves.  I hope this encourages someone. I know it encouraged me.

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Still Cleansing


 When we started this journey 21 years ago,

You promised You would never leave,

No matter what, You wouldn’t let go.


Your blood washed me clean that day,

My vile wretched selfish sin,

Was no more, when at Your cross it was laid.


Over the years, You have held Your word.

You have never left, You have never let go,

Even when my desires became my new lord.


I heard a sermon yesterday morn,

The words on the page leapt into my soul,

Where an ugly hole, sin had torn.


“Your blood that was shed once and for all,

Is just as cleansing now, as it was back then,

You keep on cleansing me, even after a fall!”


When my mind tries to wrap around this spoken truth,

I cannot seem to fathom Your love for me,

Even though You have given the proof.


I am lost in the wonder of Your divine grace,

Knowing I deserve hell,

And yet, I have the promise of Your face!


You keep on cleansing, making me clean,

You justify, sanctify, glorify,

All I am to do is lean.


Lean on Your arms, Your truth, Your word.

While You do the work in me.

Making my desire all You, my Lord.


“Thank You” seems a very small token,

But it’s the word that comes to mind,

And my soul is wanting it spoken.


Thank You my Jesus, my Saviour, My King.

Thank You for Your cleansing blood,

It is still doing the cleansing.


Romans 8:30And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified.

Hebrews 10:14 For by a single offering he has perfected for all time those who are being sanctified.

1 John 1:6 If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.

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