Proverbs 31:11 The heart of her (the Excellent wife) husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
Trust~ Difficult word for some of us, huh? What does it mean to you to have someone’s trust? And not just anyone’s trust but the trust of your husband? The person on this earth who knows you better than anyone else… does he trust you? When was the last time you considered this question?
For me, trust is a BIG deal with anyone, but with my man, HUGE! I desire for his heart to be secure in me. The second part of the verse is there for a reason; “he will have no lack of gain”. What does that mean to you and I in this modern world we live in? I know this will not make some of us happy but these are just my thoughts on this… some of us like shopping a bit too much. We don’t consider the issues we face as a family when we have debt hanging over our heads. Sometimes we may choose to push the blame of the debt to our husbands, “he needs a better job”, or “well, he buys things too”, but honestly we are only responsible for our part in it. Can my husband say that he has no lack of gain with me in his life? I truly want this. Why? Obviously because I love my husband but it should be first and foremost because I love my Lord.
Verse 12 goes right along with verse 11… “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” What does it mean to “Do good to our husbands”? Well, for one thing it means we are pro-active in our marriage. We seek to do good to him…what does he like? The greatest thing you can do for him is to pray for him! Tell him you pray for him, tell him what you are praying, ask him what you can pray for… what are some other things? A clean house? Do it. A clean car? Do it. A favorite meal? Do it. Obedient and respectful children? Train them to be this! It is part of Philippians 2:3,4 “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not to his own interests but also to the interests of others.” This starts with our husbands and then moves to our children. When we start to put his needs above our own, at first it will feel like a shoe that doesn’t fit. We will feel out of place and maybe expect some kind of acknowledgement from him on what WE are doing… this is when we must pray for the humility that is takes to be obedient to the Word, knowing that God will bless us for our obedience.
“…and not harm…” How do we do harm to our husbands? For one, we are not obedient to the first…”doing good”, we don’t pray for him, we complain about him. We don’t do what we know he likes because “he doesn’t do what we like”. All of this is harmful to our husbands, both spiritually and physically.
“…all the days of her life.” This isn’t to be just some technique we use to get what we want from God or our husbands, this is to be a life pattern. Even though it may feel odd when we start stepping out in faith and being obedient, it won’t take long (if our hearts are right) before we realize we are doing it because we want to and in the doing we find joy.
Thanks for taking the time to dig in with me.