The last few days we have had rain, rain, and more rain! Yesterday the ditch behind out house which is about 5 ft deep filled to overflowing and as I was making supper, I watched the water flow into the yard and garden knowing there was nothing I could do about it.
I was inspired this morning from another blog about “husband bashing.” I had read the following scriptures yesterday and shuddered to think about all the times I may have been guilty of this sin.
Proverbs 27:15 A continual dripping on a rainy day
and a quarrelsome wife are alike;
16 to restrain her is to restrain the wind
or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.
Just like the flooding of my yard, my words and my attitude can be destructive to not only my marriage but also to the marriages of my friends.
I love my husband completely and respect who he is in Christ. He has triumphed in Christ over many things that if he did not have the Spirit of God, would have surely killed him.
When I think about how popular “husband bashing” is, I feel ill. I really dis-like jokes about men or women. I don’t think they are funny and if you have ever told one in my presence you have most likely seen my dis-approval. But, I have decided to be more pro-active in my thoughts and feelings. I have decided if I don’t want to be a part of bashing, I will instead be a part of showing honor. If you are married I want to encourage you to take the following few verses and apply them to your wife or husband. Yes, even if you don’t want to. Even if the thought of them causes you to have negative emotions. You may be surprised what changing your attitude about your marriage does FOR your marriage.
Romans 12:9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
What are ways you can honor your spouse today outwardly? We are all too familiar with outward bashing. Lets become outward in our honor. We did make a vow to do so. Remember those?